Has this ever happened to you? So hilarious if others do it… Watch this little video by Brené Brown and see how with blaming we can spoil our relationships – and our lives.
Isn’t it just so liberating to know exactly who’s guilty when something bad happens? To be able to blame someone will help us release our anger and prevent us from feeling the pain…
And, blaming also prevents us from learning in those situations. If it’s someone’s fault then why work on changing things or doing things differently? What is an uncomfortable truth that I do not have to face thanks to blaming and raging? And, what story do I not hear when I only listen for « the guilty » or « the root of the problem » in order to find the quick fix solution?
What I found relieving about stopping to blame others, circumstances or the weather for my misery is that I discovered how much I actually can influence by myself. That I don’t have to go into victim mode and that I’m able to be in charge of my life. I can be stuck in traffic and decide that there’s something I can do in my car other than complain, I can activate my strengths and creativity to overcome a difficulty, which often exists only in my head anyway.
So, what are situations in which you feel like blaming? What could you do instead?