How are you doing during these holidays? And: WHAT are you doing during these holidays?
For me, the end of the year is the first time since I started working that it wasn’t a total rush to get everything done and get everything right, on time.
One reason is that I had no coaching exam just before Christmas like last year, no course work to deliver like 2015, no year-end project work, planning meetings, final contributions to corporate presentations etc. to deliver.
The other reason is that every day, I asked myself and my loved ones what we really want for this Christmas. My family said they could do with less fancy food – and I discovered that I actually enjoy making it. I enjoy it – and so I do not need anyone’s recognition for it. I said that I’d like to decorate a bit less – and my family said they love it so much and then did it themselves. I was ready to have it done their way and discovered that 3 kids don’t need me as much as I thought to bring a festive atmosphere into the house.
Those are just a few examples of how we tested our wishes for this holiday season. I feel how letting go of standards and assumptions about each others‘ expectations is releasing tension. And this is also how we moved into the days of celebration: checking what each of us needs to feel happy and held and let go of things that we just did, because we thought that this is what we should do.
How about you? What are things that you really like about these days and what are things you could just as well not do? Are they important for any of your loved ones? how do you know?
Happy holidays and listen to what you really need and want.